The last time I saw Daddy.


“The LORD has done great things for us, and we are filled with joy.” –Psalm 126:3

It’s all about perspective. You know, the way we look at things—glass half empty or half full. Today would have been Daddy’s 73rd birthday. Today I would have been stopping by his place for a visit, presents in tow, greeted by his smiling eyes and soft voice. Instead, I am feeling the void of his presence, and clinging to a photo taken of us at his birthday celebration last year—the last time I saw him, touched him, heard him. It’s eight days before Christmas, eleven days before he joined the angels.

My birthday was two days ago. I missed not getting a “Happy Birthday” text from him for the first time. Life kept on moving, but a part of me stood still.



Can you relate? I imagine the holidays are difficult for anyone who has lost a loved one. I think of my friend Ryan whose beautiful wife Tammy graduated to glory the beginning of December last year. How quiet the house must be. But then, I am reminded of Jesus, his birth, his coming to fill the void of humanity—if we will let Him. To view life through a lens of “this is it,” is quite depressing, but to view life through the lens of “I am just passing through” creates faith and hope—expectation for what’s to come. Ryan and I view life through the same lens. That doesn’t mean it’s easy, but it means there’s hope.

This verse is a reminder that while we live in a world full of violence, pain, and death, the LORD has done great things for us, and we can be filled with joy. Joy is always possible. Thanksgiving proceeds the miracle. Always.

Prayer: Father, help me to remember the good times I had with my loved one, and not focus on their absence. Remind me to have a heavenly perspective when it comes to the ways of this world. Thank you for Christ in me, the hope of glory.

“Grief, no matter how you try to cater to its wail, has a way of fading away.”
V.C. Andrews


3 thoughts on “Perspective

  1. Jen
    Happy Belated Birthday! What a lovely relationship you had with your father….I know you miss him terribly…Perspective is what Jesus wants us to remember…While death brings sadness, the perspective of eternal life fills us with hope knowing that there is much more to come… The memories help us to navigate through the grief journey but seeing death of a loved one who died in Christ heightens the perspective of knowing there is a bright future…Yes, we are only passing through. With that truth we “fix our eyes not on what is seen but what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.” II Corinthians 4:18…..Now, that is the right perspective….
    I pray a very Merry Christmas to you and your dear husband….You are right on regarding the Christmas perspective….Jesus is the Reason for the Season…..
    Much love!

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  2. Jennifer, thank you for this post, and for sharing your heart. I was just talking to God about our hope for our future with Him, and how hard it can be to remember sometimes in the dailyness or pain of this world, and sometimes especially in this time of year. But that’s why He came…to have us with Him forever.
    What sweet memories you have of your Dad – may Jesus bring you much joy this Christmas!

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